Having family pressure on Marriage?

We had just finished a drama ministration in church of a lady in her mid-thirties who was pressurized into visiting a traditionalist just so she could get a husband.  The man she ended up with after constant beatings wanted a separation from her. She was sad and confused and realised that she missed it in marriage by not seeking God’s purpose for her life

While we were at the dressing room to change from our costume to our Sunday outfits, a lady walked in who commended us for our ministration and blamed the lady in the drama for succumbing to the temptation. She narrated a story of how her mother constantly pressurized her to get married even when she doesn’t have anyone at the moment. According to her, she was almost forced to marry someone she knew quite well is a smoker due to constant pressure she gets from her family. Another lady whom we met at the room must have been touched with this because she also decided to share her own experience. According to her, her grandmother had even called a family meeting on her with the belief that she must have been cursed for not been married at her age. At that moment, I couldn’t but thank God for mine own parents, who just doesn’t see any reason to bother or let alone pressurize their daughter about marriage.

To my amazement, the lady in question just clocked 25 in September and I’m like what the hell? Why would someone be pressurized at that tender age? She looked to me like someone caged who needed to be freed desperately.  I seriously wished that our parents would be more patient with their daughters, you do not expect them to jump at any tom and harry for marriage. They need to take their time in making such a delicate decision. They don’t need their daughters at their doorsteps everyday ready to share her bad tales in marriage. Stop comparing your time with theirs or compare them with any of their mates.

I have a cousin who also experienced such with her mom who wanted her to get married at all cost but she developed a tough skin and wouldn’t let any of their words get to her. She faced more hell on earth from her mom when she didn’t accept a marriage proposal from her colleague.

This same guy forged official documents in her care and almost got her sacked from work because she rejected his proposal. It was when her mother got to know about it that she had to allow her rest. She kept on believing God for a soul mate until God answered her prayers. If you’re in this shoe, you need to develop a tough skin and constantly ask God for help and seek advice from counsellors to regain your sanity. Don’t settle for less and don’t also play too hard to get.

Feel free to share your own experience on this post and let us reason together.





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