A lady who confided about certain things..............

A lady who confided about certain things she was going through happened to engage in a brawl with one of her colleagues, named Kemi (not the real name) who just kept nagging at her to get their present task done.



She was so immersed in her thoughts when Kemi approached her and needed to know why she was so careless and undedicated to her work to have repeatedly made same mistakes on just a task. Rather than apologise, she retorted back at Kemi; “Leave me alone and have compassion. Let me be and stop being so judgmental.” Kemi was taken aback with surprise and rather than asked what the situation was fired back at her.  She must have thought, “Hell No, will I allow this one talk to me like that.”

The next thing she said was, “Do I look like source of your problem? Or why will you say that I have no compassion. I care less about you, just get the work done and go sort out your problem.” Pow!

Kemi walked out having said such words and she (the lady) also yelled back at her. At least that was what she told me. She broke down in tears narrating this to me and in her words, “Maybe my colleague is right, maybe I’m forsaken. No one cares about me. I am tired of this life.”

Instantly I thought of how we must have lashed at others with our words just because we felt, “they started it first” and no way are we going to allow someone’s words settle on us.

Kemi meant no harm, because obviously she started it. Rather than explain to Kemi in a calm manner asking for more time to regain herself, she lashed out thinking everyone should understand her. NO! Everyone is not obligated to understand what you are going through because you didn’t tell them. I am not saying that you tell everyone your story but be careful how you talk to others when you are so moody especially when you allow your problem/thoughts overwhelm you.

Kemi should also have asked to know why she must have been spoken to in such a harsh manner or perhaps just walk out of the office to save the situation from getting worse.

Our words have powerful effect on others and we may not know; Kemi unknowingly help the lady conclude her thoughts that no one cared about her. She also felt Kemi was right and resolved to be mean.

Be careful with your words and learn to understand the situation at the moment before you take actions. Desist from harmful words.

 @whurmie 


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